2012 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

4,329 films were submitted to the 2012 Cannes Film Festival. This blog had 14,000 views in 2012. If each view were a film, this blog would power 3 Film Festivals

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The Art Of Peeing – To Stand Or Sit

           The Art Of Peeing – To Stand Or Sit …. That Is The Question

A bit of conversation overheard from two couples at a nearby table at a local restaurant went something like this – “I’m the only one in this relationship that sits down to pee!!” Actually, that is the exact quote. And it begs the question, “Why in the world would anyone care how someone else pees?”

There is nothing macho or manly about being able to pee standing up, it is just a happy accident of nature due entirely to a male’s plumbing and has nothing to do with his testosterone count! And having this ability has as many drawbacks as advantages.
Don’t get me wrong, being able to pee standing up is a marvelous ability to possess and comes in handy in so many outdoor situations. In the woods. On a golf course. In a boat. In an alley outside a bar. Hiding behind an open car door on the side of the interstate. But this convenience is counterbalanced by the fact that, when we are home, peeing standing up is just plain messy!!

As one who cleans the bathrooms in our home, I am here to tell you that men are the messiest urinators on the planet! That stuff ends up running down the side of the toilet bowl, on the bottom of the lid and seat, on the floor and just about everywhere else you can imagine.

Ladies, when that stream first hits the water, it causes a splash. Where the drops from that splash go is anybody’s guess but usually you can count on it landing on the rim of the bowl, on the floor, on the cute TP holder you bought at Bed Bath and Beyond, on the wall, or on the guy’s foot. And that is just the beginning! When the well is dry, there is the “Shaking Off The Last Three Drops” ritual and, once again, the drops can land anywhere. Like on the rim of the bowl, on the floor, on the cute TP holder you bought at Bed Bath and Beyond, on the wall, or on the guy’s foot.

And all of that is just for a normal urination. Then there is the emergency situation when a guy has waited waaaaay toooooo long and has only seconds to make it to the toilet before his bladder decides not to wait on him! He un-zips his fly on his way down the hall and reaches in to find the fly to his underwear! But, damn it, the fly is being contrary and can’t be found!!! He has only seconds so, as he is lifting the lid and seat with one hand, he is pulling the waistband of his underwear down and dragging his penis out and over the top! Too late!! He starts peeing before he can aim and the first of the stream hits the bottom of the lid and the bottom of the seat!! Or the rim of the bowl, the floor, the cute TP holder you bought at Bed Bath and Beyond, the wall, or his foot.

And then there is the one situation that we men never think about until it is too late. In this scenario, and it happens a lot, the man has been spending some amorous time with his wife or girlfriend and a different liquid has exited his penis. Only not all of it has escaped and this particular liquid tends to dry into a hard, glue-like substance and will plug up any small orifice it happens to be in. So, later when the guy goes to pee, he may be surprised to see two streams exiting his penis in different directions and different trajectories! It’s like trying to aim your garden hose and a leak in your garden hose at the same rose bush! Of course the warm urine eventually melts the plug and the man can pee normally again, that is, with only one stream. However, the damage has been done and there is now pee on the bottom of the lid and the bottom of the seat!! Or the rim of the bowl, the floor, the cute TP holder you bought at Bed Bath and Beyond, the wall, or his foot.
So guys, the next time you have to relieve your bladder, do a big favor for the person who cleans the bathrooms – have a seat!!!

Over The Top or Just Really Romantic?

Just heard a romance story and I’m not sure how to take it. Is this guy just the most romantic man in the world or does he just have WAY too much time on his hands?

Seems this couple have been together four years and, to celebrate the anniversary, the guy buys 101 small boxes (they come flat and have to be folded into a box!! That’s 101 times he had to put a box together!!) and into each one he puts a piece of paper upon which he has written one of the “101 Reasons I Love You.” (Once again, that is 101 times he has to write something different on a small piece of paper, fold it, and put it in a box!)
Now folks, I love my wife dearly, with all my heart, but I’m not sure I could come up with 101 reasons!! I COULD come up with 101 things about her or things that she does that I love, but I’m not sure that is the same thing.  But maybe it is, because that seems to be what this guy wrote on the notes.
The lady did not open them all at once – 101 small boxes at one time? That could get boring! Instead, she is opening them a few at a time over several days. Or weeks, maybe. That seems like a good plan to me as it prolongs the romantic moment for as long as she has unopened boxes.
I’m really on the fence, here.  Part of me thinks it is romantic, but a BIGGER part of me thinks it is just kind of silly.  Soooooo,  I want to know what YOU think!! Was this a truly fantastic romantic gesture? Or was it just over the top lame?  All comments welcome!!  And thanks!!

The Supreme Court Got It Wrong!

The recent ruling by our Supreme Court allowing tasteless and hurtful demonstrations at the funerals of our fallen military heroes is deeply disturbing. What the justices, and many Americans it seems these days, have forgotten or choose to ignore is the simple fact that your rights end where someone elses begins.

As an example, let us say that you like to play your music loud to really appreciate it. I can relate to that because I like to play mine loud also and it is certainly our right to do so. Then let us also say that you have a neighbor who cannot sleep because he is being blasted by your – or my – loud music. Common sense, respect, and empathy, as well as local laws, would dictate that we MUST turn our music down to a level that doesn’t disturb our neighbor’s sleep. According to our Declaration of Independence, we are all endowed by our creator “with certain inalienable rights, among them life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.” And sleep!

I would suggest that it is also an inalienable right to bury your loved ones with peace, dignity, sorrow and love WITHOUT being forced to listen to the hurtful, sadistic rantings of the lunatic fringe!

I am not saying that the lunatic fringe doesn’t have a right to exist or to put voice to their beliefs. They do have those rights, UP TO THE POINT WHEN THEY ARE DENYING SOMEONE ELSE THEIR RIGHTS!!!

The protestors are WRONG in choosing this solemn venue to voice their message and the Supreme Court is WRONG in choosing to allow them to do it!!  This isn’t over, and I am afraid it is going to end badly.

Let The Guy Do What He Loves!!

Today I am going to re-cycle the first post I ever made on this blog.  Time hasn’t diminished the story or the statement so I think it is still relevant to today’s audience.  Enjoy!!  Tommy

When I was in my early teens, I remember when our next door neighbor, Linda, was complaining to my mother about how much time her husband spent working on his race car and how he spent every Saturday night at the local drag strip racing it. Linda felt like Russ should be spending that time with her. She wanted him to fuss over her the way he fussed over his car. Being so young, I had no idea if Russ was paying enough attention to his wife, and I still don’t. I did know that Russ was fanatic about his car and had even built a bigger garage than the one that came attached to the house so he would have more room for the car and all the tools he needed to work on it. My mother didn’t know if he was giving Linda the proper attention either, I am guessing, because her advice to Linda did not address that issue at all. Mom was simple and straight forward with our neighbor as she said “Linda, Russ LOVES to work on and race his car. It makes him happy and he truly enjoys it. You need to realize that and stop complaining to him about it.” The incredulous look on Linda’s face I can still see today. She had fully expected my mom to agree with her that Russ should sell the car and spend more time with her. Mom continued “At least you know where he is, Linda. And you know he is doing something he loves. That beats NOT knowing where he is or what he is doing.” I don’t remember any more of the conversation. I may have become bored and gone out to play ball or ride my bike. But I do remember that, about a week later, Linda was again in our kitchen talking to mom when I heard her say “Midge, I have thought a lot about what you said last week about Russ and his car and I have decided that you are right! He DOES love working on and racing that car and I should let him do what he loves.”

At the time, I did not realize how smart my mother’s advice had been nor how insightful my mother was about men.  It was really just a way of life at our house that my dad hunted and fished and went to the sprint car races on ocassion and spent a lot of time restoring his old “32 Ford Coupe because those are the things he loved to do and mom never complained about any of it. In retrospect, I understand why my parents stayed together until death did them part, because they understood that they both enjoyed things the other did not and they never tried to deny one another the chance to do those things.
As a result, I have never understood why women would tell their man that they “couldn’t” play golf, go fishing, go to a baseball game or any thing else that he wanted to do. After all, she is his wife, not his mom. Women need to realize that by trying to deny a man something he loves, she is just driving him away from HER, not away from the activity he enjoys. When we get married, we are not giving up our individuality, we are just adding someone we love to the equation. As I look back at my life, I realize just how much my mother and father taught me about relationships without even trying. They just set a wonderful example that I have emulated without even knowing it.

 I think Kahil Gibran said it best “Stand together, but not too near together, for the oak and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”

So, How Did You Two Meet?

People are always looking for new ways to meet members of the opposite sex, and the ways are boundless!!  Nowadays we have an endless supply of on-line sites that will hook us up with our soul mate for only a small fee.  I guess those work or they wouldn’t be so successful, but it is not something I would recommend to anyone.  As all my faithful readers are aware, I am decidedly “old school”.  So, from the old school, here are a few creative ways for meeting someone to whom you feel an attraction. 

I’m going to stay away from the old saws like “Do you come here often?”, “Can I buy you a drink?”, or  “You look a lot like my next boy/girlfriend!”,  because, face it guys and gals, these are really lame!!  Nope, I am going to concentrate on the un-traditional and quite creative approaches that, maybe, she/he hasn’t heard yet. 

A woman just told me that she met a guy because he bumped into her a couple of times as they were walking and then turned to apologise.  She isn’t sure if the bumping was intentional and frankly doesn’t care.  She met a nice guy and they hit it off!  If you try this approach, be careful!  Knocking someone on their butt is NOT going to turn out well.

You can take that one to the next level if you want, and gently tap bumpers with that sexy someone in a parking lot. Again, be careful as putting a big scratch on someone’s prized ride is not apt to get you a date but will probably get your insurance rates raised!

I don’t know if any men have ever tried this, but for the ladies, it is tried and true – drop something!  I doubt that many women carry hankies anymore, what with “the vapors” being a thing of the past, but drop a book, letter, bag, ball or whatever and any men in the vicinity will fall all over each other trying to be the one to pick it up for you.  It’s like opening jars, we just can’t resist helping a “damsel in distress.”   This will probably work for men, too, if you venture to try it.   After all, this is the age of women’s lib, ladies asking men for dates and equality of the sexes.

“Accidentally” leave a business card.  Don’t just hand it to someone or toss it on their table because that is just too self-centered and presumptuous.  Find a way to creatively “drop” it where the object of your desire can’t help but see it. For instance, at a restaurant or bar, if someone working there trips your trigger, leave it on the table with a note on the back for someone else.  Like “Fred, call me!” if you are a guy seeking a girl or “Linda, don’t forget the meeting!” if you are a gal after a guy. Guys don’t use a girl’s name and girls don’t use a guy’s or the person you are trying to attract  may think you are attached… off the market.   If they call you, it worked. If they don’t, you are only out a business card.

Be mannerly!  Especially you men!  My research has shown that women like men with manners.  Hold a door. Let her go first in the checkout line.  Take the shopping cart to the cart corral for her. Give her your seat!  Carry something heavy.  Get something off the high shelf.  And if she protests, simply tell her that your mother would never forgive you if you DIDN”T do it! 

And, finally, there is always the direct approach – stick out your hand and introduce yourself.  If you can get some eye contact first and your smile begats a smile from him/her, then walk right over and say “Hi, my name is Bob and I look a lot like your next boyfriend!”

Hairy Armpits Are Hot!!

Hairy Armpits Are Hot!!

A while back, I wrote a post about shaving body hair. Well, this one is about NOT shaving. Armpits.  Women’s armpits. 

I don’t know why this country became so body hair intolerant over the centuries, but I don’t think it is a good thing.  The good ol’ US of A has the highest rate of breast cancer of any developed country and I think I know why – shaving armpits and using antiperspirant!  We all learn in biology that “form follows function”.  That just begs the question, what is the function of hair in our armpits? Try this theory on for size – humans sweat, it is how we keep cool, and we tend to sweat a lot from our armpits.  I believe the hair is there to “wick” the moisture away from the body so it can evaporate.  Remove the hair, and the moisture can’t do that.

But wait! What moisture? Because women routinely slather their pits with antiperspirant, there is no moisture coming out anyway. All that sweat, and the bad things in it, is being forced to build up in the body right next to the lymph nodes that are usually removed during a mastectomy. Are you starting to see the connection – sweat, lymph nodes, breast cancer? 

Stopping your body from eliminating waste just CANNOT be a good idea! (Constipation comes to mind.) So we should stop doing it!

Now, if women only shave to be attractive to men, I don’t think most men would care if they stopped.  I used to live in The San Francisco Bay area and, being the home to free spirits from everywhere, it was not totally uncommon to see women with hairy armpits.  I didn’t find it to be gross or icky, in fact, probably because it was different, I found it to be slightly erotic!!  And I am not alone in this. Don’t believe me? Try Googling “Hairy Armpits” and see how many sites you find devoted to men who like it.

Enough about pit hair, let’s move on the antiperspirants. People use them because they are afraid they will smell bad.  I’m calling “Bullshit” on that one!! While I am NOT advocating for people to stop bathing, I do think we need to get over our aversion to normal, everyday human body odors. I like a little body odor emanating from my woman!  It is normal. It is basic. It is primal!! And it triggers a primal response!! And unless a woman decides to avoid soap and water for a prolonged period of time, you really can’t detect it unless you are close… real close.  And in that case, the person you are with is not going to care!

Now, having written all this, I feel I must confess….. I have one issue about my body odor.  I never, ever leave for a massage appointment without showering first. If I am going to be laying there in the altogether with all of my flaws laid bare to a perfect stranger, I at least do not want to offend their olfactory cells! 

I hope you can all forgive that little bit of hypocrisy